Ok now, its 5:00 pm. You have a date and the excitement is running through you like crazy. You thought getting ready for the job interview was hard. This time you had to go shopping to find that perfect outfit. You must have drove the sales lady crazy. But you wanted to look perfect. You wanted to WOW him. So, again make-up perfectly placed. Hair? Not a single one out of place. You are finally ready and then he shows up. You smile a great big greeting and off the two of you go. This is how life goes for the next 6 months as you build your relationship with your future husband.
6 month later…
You stand with your mom and friends looking into the mirror. You can’t believe this day is here. You all went the day before to get your nails done. You tried at least 5 different hair styles and who knows how many dresses before you found the perfect one. You are so excited you love this man and feel he is the one God has chosen for you to spend the rest of your life with. So now as you look into the mirror a single lady you are hopeful that you will have a God centered loving, fulfilling marriage. You are giddy with joy.
Some time later…
You will notice I put (Some time later), I did that because for some it is a short time and for others it may be a little longer. But here is how it sometimes goes…
You have decided to be a stay-at-home mom. Or… You may not have had children yet. But either way you get up and get ready to face your day. There is no reason to put on make-up, I mean you will probably just be staying home anyways. Oh your hair can wait until another day…Church is not until Wednesday night and you don’t have any important appointments. So you just pop it up in a scrunchy and call it done. You grab those comfortable lounge pants that you have worn out and add a tee-shirt to it. Done! You are dressed… and that is how you look when your husband comes home from work.
I am writing this because I have seen so many women forget how to dress and get ready after they get married. They seem to forget that the husband they love so much didn’t marry a girl that didn’t take care of herself. They think “well since I have nowhere to go I don’t have to dress up”.
Being a wife even if you do not work outside of the home is still a full time job. You want your husband to know you love him, you respect him and you still look forward to seeing him. If you are greeting your husband in lounge pants and tee-shirts every day and not taking the time to dress appropriately then what signal are you sending him?
Men are very visual beings. They remember the girl they married. They want to see her even when she is 30, 40, 50, or no matter the age. Oh yes with time we all change in the way we look. We get wrinkles, we change in our hairstyle, and we even change how we dress. However your husband will see the girl he married by how you take care of yourself and dress for him. Get up ladies…brush your teeth, get that hair ready and greet your husband with a smile. Oh yea don’t forget…lounge pants are fine on an occasion but your husband really doesn’t want to see you in them every day he comes home.
Show your husband you appreciate him. Again greet him with a smile and ask him how his day went.
Remember your husband chose you to marry. He chose you to love. He is also faced everyday with ladies that are “dressed for success”. Satan will use the time that your husband is at work, the store or anywhere really to try and turn his eye. Men no matter what age still have an eye for a beautiful lady. Make sure you’re that beautiful lady ever night when he comes home.
Now I know that some ladies do not where make-up. I am not telling you that you all have to wear make-up. I am just trying to remind you to find that girl that was getting ready for her first date and show her to your husband. You don’t always need make-up for that. You do need to take time to “dress for success”.
For me this was something I found I needed to learn after my children. I found that I had forgotten to take pride in the way I dressed. I had a sweet friend that was staying with me one weekend. We were both military families and our husbands had been away for a short deployment.
The day our husbands were to come back she took so much time to get ready. I asked her why she was getting so dressed up. She looked at me and said…”I want to look the best I can for my husband”. It hit me right then that she was showing her husband more love, more appreciation and more thoughtfulness than I had in a long time.
I want to thank her for letting God use her in a way to teach me. I still want my husband to be looking at me, thinking about me, daydreaming about me. I want him to always see that girl he married in me. However I wasn’t taking the time to even help him in that area. Thank you, Nancy! You helped me and may never have known it. Thank you Lord for sending me someone to show me what I needed to see and learn.
Ok ladies…lets go get “Dressed for Success”!