I put this first because this is the most important reason for my husband and I. More important than Math, English or any other subject, we want our children to love God. We want our children to truly have a relationship with God. God gave us our children to raise. He didn’t give them to anyone else. God commands us to raise our children up to learn about Him, trust in Him, and love Him. (That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments.) If our children are away from us for 8 plus hours a day under the instruction of public schools where God is not even allowed to be talked about or prayed to, then are we really doing what God commanded or are we handing over the responsibility to others?
Psalm 78:1-7 “Give ear, O my people, to my law: incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old: Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done. For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments:”
Deuteronomy 6:7 “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up.”
2. Family Bonding.
As a homeschooling family you are able to spend quality time together. The parent child bond is strengthened and the sibling connection is amazing. You are there when your child reads for the first time. You are the one that sees the smile on their face when that “light bulb” goes off and they figure out something they have been struggling with.
When your children were little you were there to see their first steps. You taught them how to talk. By homeschooling you don’t miss out on the other milestones. You don’t have to be the one your child comes home to and tells about how well he or she did in spelling. You can be right beside them cheering them on instead.
Your children will have the opportunity to explore together. Build the castles that they learned about together in history, or even watch that butterfly come out of its cocoon. They will be having fun together while learning.
You will have a flexible schedule so you can do more as a family. Taking your books with you to go and see grandma or grandpa. Meeting dad at the park during lunch and looking for insects or flowers you are studying. Reading your history or read a louds in the fresh air on a sunny day instead of sitting in a stuffy class room.
Bible study time, game time, cooking time, reading time…the list just continues. Your time with your child is limited. Before you know it they will be grown. I have enjoyed every second I was able to spend with my older children before they graduated. I feel blessed to have little ones again that I can cherish and watch grow.
Homeschoolers excel academically. Educational reason are also a big part of why a lot of people homeschool. Being able to focus on your child’s needs is something children in public or even Christian schools lack. In a class room of 20 to 30 children it is hard to wait for the child that is struggling. What about if your child is ready to move on to subtraction but the class is still on addition. The advanced child is often paced at the same pace as the others. This can lead to children being labeled as ADHD or more. That child might not mean to be disruptive. He or she may just be bored.
By not being locked into a class curriculum and timeline your child can become an independent learner, your child can explore areas of interest, and can develop a love of learning.
4. Ability to choose your curriculum and style
Our children are not cookie cutter gingerbread men. They are not all going to learn the same and they will not all have the same interest. The freedom of homeschooling allows you to choose the curriculum that best fits your child’s learning.
There are many homeschool styles you may want to explore. Some parents find that a classical education is how their children will do best, while others may like a Charlotte Mason approach. There is also unit studies, textbook, unschooling, and eclectic. As a parent you may choose a Christian curriculum. You may find learning history through literature much more relaxing than the textbooks.
I saved this one for last. This seems to be one of the biggest questions we tend to hear. So let me ask you a question. What is socialization? How many days a week do you spend in a room with 20 or 30 people that are your same age? My guess is not many.
Homeschoolers are often able to talk with people of all age groups. They are not isolated. There are a lot of outlets for homeschoolers to socialize. There are co-ops, church youth groups, volunteering and much more.
Peer pressure is also a very real threat to our children. Bullying, trying to fit in, and acceptance can lead even the strongest child down the wrong path. At a young age, our children are spending 8 hours or more a day being taught and pressured by people with morals exactly opposite of our own. How is this not going to confuse your child or teen? By sending your children to be influenced by these groups you are giving your tacit approval of what is being taught. After all, if Mommy and Daddy send me there they must trust them to teach me right.
I Corinthians 15:33 “Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”
Matthew 7:24 - 27 “Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and acts on them, may be compared to a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock. Everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. The rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and it fell—and great was its fall.”
We wanted to help our children build their house on the rock. We wanted them to have the freedom to worship, pray and talk about the Lord all hours of the day. Not just in the evening, weekends or after school hours. We wanted to be sure our children were being taught all through the day about God’s love and grace.